Quincy & Anthony's Wedding: November 5–9, 2026

My brother Quincy married his longtime boyfriend Anthony Dang on Saturday, November 7, 2026, at Hoʻomaluhia Botanical Garden in Kāneʻohe. I knew they had been together for quite a while. They made it official to my parents last November in Vegas, though it may have been before that. I knew they were together in 2019, and ironically, that was the same year Michelle and I left Hawaii. Malia worked for Quincy for a few years after high school, and I think that's how we first got to know Anthony. Big thanks to Quincy for paying for Malia's plane ticket so she could be at the wedding.

A lot of the background here comes from Quincy and Anthony's wedding website, which helped me fill in the gaps. Their story goes back to 2018, when Anthony sent Quincy a very detailed message on a dating app about a birthday cake in Quincy's profile. Quincy left it unread. A year later, on New Year's Eve 2018 in Las Vegas, Quincy asked a friend who the cute guy was. It turned out to be Anthony. They talked all night, and Quincy rang in 2019 in front of the Bellagio fountains. On January 20, 2019, Anthony met our entire family at once at Khoen's first birthday. A week later, on January 26, he officially asked Quincy out, and their first date was at Zippy's on Vineyard. Anthony proposed on December 29, 2024, at 53 By The Sea with a cake that read "Marry Me?" By the wedding day they had been together almost eight years.

Thursday: Back on Oahu

I landed on Oahu Thursday evening, and my mom picked me up at the airport. On the drive back to Waikele, Oahu looked different but felt the same. Construction projects had updated the whole stretch from the airport to Waikele.

That night Malia flew in from Iowa, so I picked her up. Quincy's car had broken down earlier in the day, so after getting Malia I picked him up too. I was running on adrenaline and had been up almost 24 hours by the time I went to sleep at midnight Hawaii time.

Friday: The Rehearsal

The next day we had the wedding rehearsal at Hoʻomaluhia Botanical Garden in Kāneʻohe. I've been there many times, but I wasn't ready for how busy it was. The place was packed, and I was shocked at how many people were there. We did a few run-throughs, and then it rained, so we practiced a backup plan under the pavilion in case it rained on the big day.

After the rehearsal I was dead tired, so Malia and I took a nap back in Waikele. I had forgotten how humid Hawaii is, and I stunk up the place because I couldn't stop sweating.

Saturday: Wedding Day

Wedding day started early. We wanted to be at the park by 9:00 am, when the gates opened. The ceremony was set for 10:00 am at the pavilion at Kahua Nui, but some guests ran late because of traffic on H-3, so we started at 10:15. It went perfectly.

After the ceremony we drove over to Haleʻiwa Joe's at Haiku Gardens for the reception. I'll admit it might be the most scenic restaurant on Oahu. The food was top notch. I remember it being really good about 20 years ago, and their prime rib is still legendary. That felt fitting, since prime rib had a starring role in Anthony's proposal story too.

Congratulations to Quincy and Anthony on their marriage. I wish you both all the best.